FAQ II--- The Boyfriend/Husband TAG

 

The Boyfriend Husband/ Wife Tag

I’ve gotten a few requests to answer “The Boyfriend Tag”. I wasn’t going to do it at first because it seemed to long, but after awhile I got curious and decided to answer it with Gerry. He doesn’t know it is for my blog, he thinks it’s one of my crazy random ideas. We were sitting outside on our lawn chairs enjoying the fresh air and looking at the stars. I’ll provide both His answers as well as My answers.

 

1) She/ He is sitting in front of the TV what is on the screen?

Him: Rae is watching anything from a musical show to a reality-TV show. You are a television addict. (very true!)

Me: Gerry doesn’t watch TV a lot. He prefers watching movies. However if he happens to have the TV on he is watching a cooking program or Discovery Channel.

Him: You normally prefer the junky shows, I prefer the educational ones. (LOL)

 

 

2) You're out to eat what kind of dressing does he/she get on his/her salad

Him: That is a no-brainer. Caesar salad with Caesar dressing.

Me: 10 Points! Gerry doesn’t like dressing on his salad.

 

 

3) What’s one food he/she doesn’t like?

Him: (looking puzzled) One food? Like a meal?

Me: I guess?

Him: You aren’t crazy about sushi and you hate celery.

Me: True. I can’t think of a meal you don’t like. You don’t like your food too greasy.

Him: I don’t like Macaroni and cheese.

Me: Really? I didn’t know that. I guess you are lucky I don’t make it that much.

Him: That’s why I married you. (LOL)

 

 

4) You go out to eat and have a drink what does he/she order?

Him: If it’s a non-alcoholic drink it is a Diet soda or Zero soda. If it is an alcoholic drink it is a strawberry daiquiri.

Me: Or rum and soda. I have the bad habit of not drinking anything alcoholic unless you get it for me.

Him: Now that I think about it, it’s true. You won’t drink unless I do.

*bonding moment*

Me: You love drinking lots of water and I don’t think you have 1 specific alcoholic drink. It depends on your mood.

 

 

5) What size shoe does he/she wear?

Him: (LOL) Do you want me to answer that?

Me: NO! Forget that question.

Him: We wear the same shoe size. You wear a 10/11 American women shoe size and I wear an 11/12 men size. However your shoes fit me.

 

 

6) If he/she was collecting anything what would it be?

Him: You collect Frogs and anything related to fairytales: ceramic fairies, decorative wizards, etc.

Me: You collect cloths and stamps from every place you’ve visited.

 

 

7) What is her/her favorite type of sandwich?

Him: You like Ham sandwiches or grilled cheese sandwiches.

Me: You love any sandwich.

 

 

8) What would this person eat everyday if he/she could?

Him: You would eat chocolate or anything sweet.

Me: I have no idea what you would eat every day. You pretty much eat anything and everything.

 

 

9) What is his/her favorite cereal?

Him: You like Rice Krispies.

Me: You enjoy whole brand and sweet cereal, so it could either be Raisin Brand or anything kids cereal.

 

 

10) What is his/her favorite music?

Him: I know you say your favorite music is “everything and anything” depending on your mood, but you always listen to classical instrumental music or opera.

Me: You listen to the latest hits, it doesn’t matter who. And you hate my musical opera CD’s.

 

 

11) What is his/her favorite sports team?

Him: Philadelphia Phillies.

Me: You don’t have a favorite sports team, but you enjoy soccer.

 

 

12) What is his/her eye color?

Him: At first glance they look Dark brown, almost black. But in the sun they look hazel, like a glistening amber.

Me: That is incredibly sweet and romantic.

Him: Now tell what color my sea blue eyes are…

Me: (LOL) You have brown eyes, the color of a Louis Vuitton purse.

Him: Now that is romantic.

 

 

13) Who's his/her best friend?

Him: Me!

Me: Who is my best gal friend…?

Him: Michelle Smith?

Me: Wrong! My best friend, my childhood friend, is Patricia. I met Michelle when I was in High School. We are close right now because Patricia moved last year.

Him: And who is my best friend?

Me: Danielle, your doctor friend.

 

 

14) What is something you do that he/she wishes you wouldn’t?

Him: I know you wish I was more organized, in the sense that I wouldn’t leave my things everywhere.

Me: Not more organized, you are pretty organized. I wish you would be as organized at home as you are at work.

Him: So what is something you do that I wish you wouldn’t?

Me: You wish I wouldn’t be as neurotic or intense with things?

Him: Correct!

 

 

15) You bake him/her a cake for his/her birthday. What kind of cake?

Him: I don’t bake. I order a freshly baked French Vanilla cake from the local bakery.

Me: I bake you a Strawberry Shortcake with lots of frosting.

Him: Now I’m hungry…

 

16) Did he/she play any sports?

Him: You used to play basketball, but now you enjoy occasionally playing volleyball.

Me: You play soccer whenever you get a chance.

 

 

17) What could he/she spend hours doing?

Him: Sleeping.

Me: Sleeping.

 

 

18) What is one unique talent he/she has?

Him: Your capacity to love. You love life no matter what it throws at you. Most of all, you love me and my family. Also you have a talent for writing and the patience to do so…

Me: I think that is the nicest thing you’ve ever told me.

Him: Don’t get mushy on me. What is my talent?

Me: For one you have a great sense of putting outfits together and designing them. I am surprised that you don’t sketch more. Also you have an amazing talent of surprising me and making me feel safe.

 

 

19) Where did we meet?

Him: At college.

Me: At a party, a college party.

 

 

20) Where was our first date?

Him: I’m not sure we have ever had a date…

Me: Well, when did we first go out just the two of us? Do you remember?

Him: Nope.

Me: A few weeks after we met at the college party you invited me for coffee on campus. We went for coffee and then we sat together in the library talking for almost two hours.

Him: I don’t remember that at all…

 

 

21) When and how did you know I was the one?

Him: I knew you were important to me a few months before I proposed. While we were at a party and I was drunk, I asked you if you loved me. You looked me in the eye and very seriously said “I love you no matter what. I love you when you are sober, I love you when you are drunk, I love you at your best and at your worst.” I knew right then and there that you had a big part of my heart. I can’t love you the way another man could, but I knew right then and there that I could never imagine a life without you being part of it.

Me: I knew you were important to me in third or fourth semester of college when said “I love you” for the first time. You taught me to not be afraid of every decision I took. You gave me confidence to believe in who I was. One day when I was depressed at home you called me and while we chatted you said “I love you.” I didn’t know then that you weren’t in love with me, but those words made me feel special.

 

 

22) What was your first impression?

Him: You had no sense of style. You looked lost and hopeless.

Me: I thought you were cute, but you seemed to have that “know-it-all” attitude.

 

 

23) When did you meet the family?

Him: I don’t remember when I met your mother. Was it at your birthday?

Me: No, but close enough. You met my parents when they dropped me off at that party you invited me to shortly after we started hanging out. I guess the first time you came to a family reunion was when I had my birthday party.

Him: I remember that. Your whole family was there.

Me: I met your mother about a year after we started hanging out and I don’t think I really met your father until months before your graduation.

 

 

24) Who wears the pants in the relationship?

Him: I do.

Me: I do.

 

 

 

Thanks!!! Hope you enjoyed!

Till Next Time

 

Desirae Valdespino

 

 

 

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Our Valentine’s Day History

 

 

February 14^th, 2010= (2 months since Engagement)

We had just gotten engaged two months before and we were still adjusting to the idea of being engaged. I kept trying to drop Gerard hints that it would be sweet if he surprised me at school with flowers, balloons or a stuffed animal. Instead I just got a text message at 8:00 at night saying “Happy V Day Rae.” That was it. He went out to dinner with Bryce that night. I was a little hurt; I thought he would have at least gotten me a Valentine’s Day card. I had gotten him a card and mug with chocolates. I remember tearing up the card and throwing it away. I gave him the mug afterwards. I’ve never been a fan of Valentine’s Day, and not having the chance to spend it with him hurt me.

Looking back at that year, I remembering having to adjust a bit to the “pretend-life” and “real-life”. I kept getting caught up in the “pretend-life” where he romantically loved me. Relationships are never easy, and our relationship seemed very rocky since we got engaged. Last year I accidently let it slip how hurt I was that he didn’t seem interest in our first Valentine’s. He admitted that he had forgotten to get me something and was too embarrassed to admit it. “I preferred to ignore it, than admit that I hadn’t gotten you anything. You have always been thoughtful and good with details. I knew that you had gotten me something. By the time I remembered, everything was sold out. I wasn’t used to thinking about getting romantic details for you.”

 

 

February 14^th, 2011= (2 Months since Wedding)

Our first Valentine’s as a married couple. We spent it in a family way, by inviting our parents out for dinner. We invited Gerry’s brothers to come along, but they were off doing their own thing. So it ended up just being his parents and my parents. We took them out to a fancy restaurant and talked for long hours. Considering that we were still newlyweds our parents wanted to know how we were adjusting to our new life and how we were enjoying our home. It was one of the best Valentine’s Day ever because it wasn’t overly romantic or cliché. We simply spent the romantic day with the family members we loved most. (Bryce was absent this Valentine’s because he was busy at work. The guys celebrated that Friday 18^th, a late Valentine’s Day.)

I bought Gerard a leather wallet and placed it inside his nightstand drawer along with some Hershey chocolate kisses. I placed a note that said “There are plenty of more kisses from where these came from.” He almost fell of the bed laughing at my corny phrase.

He bought me a nice card and a medium size Teddy-bear. He called it ThunderBear. He knows that Thunder makes me very nervous, so he told me that whenever I feel unsafe that I should hug the bear. I love that bear to this day and it sits on my bed.

 

 

February 14^th, 2012= 2^nd Valentine’s Day as Husband and Wife

Gerry and I both had to get up early today. I knew things would be hectic at school with the Valentine’s Day Fair so I wanted to get there early. Gerard had to set up the “Red and White” fashion show at a small studio that would start in the afternoon.

The night before I bought heart shaped cookies and Valentine’s Day decorated pastries. We don’t normally eat such sweet things in the morning, but I figured that we needed the sugar high in the morning. Gerard thought I was being ridiculous decorating for Valentine’s and buying commercial things. The neighbors seemed to enjoy the Heart-shaped decorations I placed on the windows and the plastic Cupid figurine sitting on the back window of my car.

“The neighbors think you are insane…” He would tell me at night when I turned on the pink and red lights around the front door.

“They know I am a teacher who enjoys being creative.”

So this morning we had a festive breakfast. I hadn’t considered that the red coloring on the pastries would stain our tongues or lips. It was cute to see Gerry walk out of the door with red lips. I told him that if someone asked, to just tell them his wife gave him lots of kisses before he walked out the door. (LOL).

I planned his romantic gift a month ago when I got online and ordered a beautiful fruit arrangement from EdibleArrangements.com. I wanted to get something my husband would enjoy. I asked them to send it to his work at noon on Valentine’s. I hoped they would deliver it on time.

When I got to school I was greeted with a lot of cute notes and chocolates from my students. After recess at 12:00, I made sure the students behaved during the fair. I saw Alex standing next to the cupcake stand and decided to see if he needed any help selling the treats.

“Hello Mrs. Valdespino, Happy Valentine’s Day!” He greeted me as I walked up. “Can I interest you into buying a cupcake?”

“No thank you! I think I’ve had too many sweets already!” I looked at the red, pink and while cupcakes with little messages on each one. “They look delicious!”

“Oh, too bad, I had a special one saved here for you.”

“Really? What kind is it?”

“Vanilla with chocolate filling. Look…” he showed me the cupcake. “It has a message on it: U R Sweet”.

“Oh, alright.” I handed him the money and bought the cupcake.

A student walked up to Alex and said “Professor, tell us a poem!” Then she turned to me and asked if I knew any romantic poems. I replied that I couldn’t think of any at the moment. She continued to insist that Alex think of a poem.

“I don’t know how to start…” he began and turned to me.

I smiled and said “Start with the typical—Roses are red, Violets are Blue…”

“Roses are red, Violets are blue, This day I used to dread, Until I met you” He answered, staring straight into my eyes. I looked at him, surprised by his poem. My wedding ring suddenly itched on my finger. I smiled politely and pretended that someone was calling me at the other end of the fair.

My cel-phone suddenly rang.

“Hello?”

“Hello darling! Happy V Day!” Gerry’s voice echoed on the other end of the line.

“Darling…hi.”

“I just got a delicious fruit arraignment delivered to my office. It doesn’t say who it is from. There is just a little blank note with a red kiss mark on it. I already called the mistress…” he joked. “So it must be from you! Thanks!”

He commented how he liked my thoughtfulness and his co-workers joked about how I was spoiling him. We agreed to go meet at the house before going out to dinner. While we spoke Alex walked up to me. I hung up with Gerry. Alex put his hands up in a motion to stop me from walking away.

“I… I didn’t mean to offend you with the poem.”

“I’m married.” I replied like robot. “Happily married.”

“I know, I am sorry… I don’t know what came over me.” He looked at me before continuing. “I don’t mean to intrude or imply anything…”

I stopped him before he continued. “Alex, it doesn’t mean anything. We are friends, you are a romantic and poet, and you just got carried away with all the celebration…”

“Corazon, I am attracted to you. This day didn’t have anything to do with it…”

I suddenly felt an uncomfortable tightness in my gut when he called me a loving name, Corazon, (heart). I didn’t like this familiarity he seemed to want to have with me. I thought Alex was cute, but he was also my co-worker and this felt wrong. It felt too sudden and it wasn’t right.

“Don’t ever call me that.” I said. “I don’t know where this is coming from, but I suggest you stop it. That name is something only my husband can call me.”

I heard the bell ring, allowing the students to return to their classrooms and then head home. I walked back to the teacher’s office and picked up my purse. I wanted to get home as soon as possible. It felt awkward begin at school.

Before I went home I drove to my parent’s house to see them. They were going to go to the movies later, so I didn’t stay too long. Once I got home I continued with the laundry and did a little dusting around the house. I found a wrapped present in the guest bedroom. It was from Gerry. I opened it and found a beautiful black beaded purse with a silver necklace.

I’ve decided to wear both tonight. I don’t think we’ll go anywhere very fancy, but I want to look nice.

I’ll write later.

Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone!!

Till tomorrow!!

Love

Desiare Valdespino